Alasan Kenapa Cowo Juga Bisa insecure.

 Hi guys!

Kali ini gua mau bahas tentang cowo juga bisa insecure..

Loh kok bisa?bukannya insecure itu identik dengan cewe ya?

Cowo itu insecurenya kaya apa sih?  Terus karena apa insecure nya??

Okay satu-satu ya bahasnya...

So yang pertama apa sih insecure itu?

Perasaan insecure itu adalah perasaan was-was was atau takut tersaingi oleh orang lain atau bisa juga diartikan sebagai perasaan iri atas apa yang orang lain punya atau capai sedangkan kita gak punya. ( iri bilang boss!😵)

Dan efek negatif dari rasa insecure ini yaitu,

1. Jadi mudah minder/ gak pede buat speak up di public atau bergaul sama suatu kelompok so yeah jadi cenderung solitude atau menyendiri.

2. Stress karena tidak pernah puas dengan diri sendiri yang merasa tidak pernah bisa lebih baik dari orang lain dalam berbagai hal misalnya fisik,status sosial,kecerdasan dll.

3. Mudah merendahkan orang lain supaya dia merasa lebih baik dibanding orang lain, mencari-cari kelemahan atau keburukan orang lain untuk menjatuhkan orang lain.

4. Mudah pamer supaya orang mengakui kehebatan atau kecantikannya. Mereka merasa insecure jika tidak mendapat apresiasi atau pujian dari orang lain.

Now our main discussion....

Apakah cowo juga bisa insecure?

Jawabannya bisa banget! Berdasarkan survey kecil-kecilan yang gua buat di ig ternyata banyak loh cowo yang mengaku kalau mereka bisa insecure....

Alasan yang bikin cowo insecure biasanya tuh karena beberapa faktor yaitu:

1. Status sosial yang rendah atau ya ngerasa gak selevel atau sekaya kawan-kawannya gitu..

2. Merasa fisiknya kurang seperti kurang goodlooking, kurang tinggi atau berotot

3. Kagak punya gebetan (anjaaayy gua gak ada gebetan aja b aj geh wkwk)

4. Kalah pinter dibanding temen-temennya (mungkin kek dia ngerasa paling bego dan rendah nilainya kali yak disekolah?tapi ini jarang sih dan just a few yg jawab gini)

Anyway, kalau diperhatiin insecure cowo ini agak beda ya sama cewe...hmm

Usually kalo cewe insecure tuh gak jauh-jauh dari fisik, tapi kalo cowo tuh lebih ke materi

 hmm pantesan aja di sinetron suara hati seorang isteri tuh ada cerita yang menceritakan kalo ada suami yang gak suka kalo isterinya lebih sukses atau penghasilannya lebih besar dibanding dia.

Hhmmm ternyata itu karena insecure toh hahaha 😂😂(korban sinetron)

 

Dan ada beberapa hal yang dilakukan cowo kalo lagi insecure, yaitu:

1. Mukulin guling untuk melampiaskan rasa insecurenya.

2. Bawa tidur biar lupa.

3. Belajar untuk menjadi lebih baik lagi. (anjayyyy silahkan tiru ya yang ini)

Well a piece of advice buat orang-orang yang insecure "udah ya insecurenya.. Capek tau..udah fokus aja sama kelebihan lu. Okay?Percaya kan Tuhan Maha Adil?dibalik kekurangan pasti ada kelebihan. Fokus aja sama kelebihan kamu :) dan kalo kamu masih single dan kamu insecure...udah gapapa gua juga single tp masih hidup dan baik-baik aja kok. You are not alone....i am here with you *kok malah nyanyi*"

Sekian...semoga bermanfaat!👍

25Kata Kerja Bahasa Inggris yang sering digunakan

 

Be Kind :)

"

 Step one be kind, Step two keep being kind, step three eventhough it's hard and some people may be mean, be even kinder, Step four that's it Just return step one and repeat 

-Jacob Tremblay

 

Okay in this very nice morning i am gonna write about "be kind".

First of all i wanna define what be kind is.

Well it means that we do something that benefit ourselves and others.

A small kindness that we can do is "smile at people"

Who knows people you meet have been through a hard time and by seeing your smile,those people will feel better.

Besides, smiling can make us more handsome and beautiful right?

According to me, people look awesome when they smile.

I believe that a kindness done by people can change the world to be better.

That's why i am writing about this since i want to be kind to myself and people. By writing this, I can be productive and useful for others since i share about kindness.

Okay I want to share about small kindness we can do to change the world.

1. Be happy. Yes before you want to help others you have to help yourself. Make sure that you are happy. Do what you like to do, crying if you need to release your sadness but promise yourself to smile and be happy later, and oh yeah someone told me that we can eat chocolate when we get sad cause it can help to change our mood to be better. Oh yeah and ofc! if you are a believer so you can pray to God and tell all your problem to Him. So the first rule to be kind is to be happy!

2. Smile at people, share good vibes.

3. Wake your family up to pray subuh, remind them to pray on time. help them when they need a hand.

It is important to be kind to your family before you are being kind to others.

4. Be a good listener to your friend. Listen to them and cheer them up when they have a problem.

5. Share positive things on your social media. 

6. Give a positive comment on a good content you find on youtube or other platforms, since your positive comment can motivate the content creators to make more and more good contents to consume by public. Dont forget to share the content so people get to know it and hopefully that good content get viral and defeat bad contents spread on social media.

6. Don't litter!

8. Donate your money rather than spending it on unimportant things.

9. Watch, read, and listen to more and more good things, because what we watch and listen can affect our mindset and behaviour.

10. Fix your intention to commit kindness. do it for the sake of Allah SWT. 

What comes around, it comes around

Anonymous

STO HTO BUCIN

 Hey readers! It's been a long time i didn't write anything on my blog since i had no idea what to write hahaha.

Now i have an idea about what to write because i just experienced something weird called HTO syndrome.

Maybe that syndrome isn't so familiar for you. That syndrome is commonly known as STO which stands for She is The One (for male) or HTO which stands for He is The One (for female)

In Indonesia, maybe it is popularly called as BUCIN.

You can be considered as a bucin if that you fall in love with someone blindly like

1. You meet that person online but you blindly fall for that person and start stalking everything about his or her private life.

2. You dream day and night that one day you can meet and have nice relationship with that person.

3.You can't be happy without your crush.

4. You cant focus on the real lfe or your goals.

5.You have the need or addiction to contact your crush.

6.You get jealous eventhough you arent even in relationship.

It is not gonna be a big deal if you have STO or HTO with your marriage partner but it is gonna be a serious problem if you get trapped in that syndrom with someone isn't yours. i mean like you don't have a right over that person. or there is only small possibility for you to get married to that person.Like if you first met with someone and all of a sudden you just fall in love and you can't even get that person out of your mind.

STO or HTO syndrome has some bad impacts for human's life like:

1. Ruining mood.

2. Ruining well planned goals.

3. Losing appetite.

3. Falling sick.

4. Etc.

so, a question probably poping up in  your mind be like

"how come does it happen?"

Yeah! when you make someone as your reason to be happy, Once you lose that person of course it means you lose your happiness as well.

But that isnt imposible to get rid of your feeling for that person.

Here are the steps to heal yourself from STO or HTO

1. Delete all the things related to that person.

2. Stay away from everything that reminds you of that person.

3. Cut off the communication and let it die out.

4. Be patient, Be strong and Believe in Yourself that you can do it!

5. Keep being close to God.

6. It is not gonna be easy but it is possible!

Apakah rasa takut itu penting?

 Hi readers!

Dah lama ya gua gak nulis ngeluarin opini wkwk

Opini yang yaaaah biasa aja tapi pengen gua curahkan.

Gua gak pandai berbicara menjelaskan ini itu pake mulut. So, yeah gua pake kekuatan 2 jempol untuk mengetik dan menuangkan opini gua.

Singkat cerita, temen gua minta gua nulis tentang "penting gak sih rasa takut?".

Dan yah otak guapun mulai berfikir "penting gak ya?"

Dan setelah setahun mikir plus ngilangin rasa malas buat nulis. Oke kali ini gua harus nulis supaya opini gua gak membusuk di kepala gua sia-sia.

Well.. 

Definisi rasa takut menurut gua adalah kekhawatiran kalau-kalau bad things will happen, kalau-kalau life doesn't work as we expect dah lah ya intinya takut itu adalah khawatir. Titik.

Well... Kalo menurut gua pribadi....

Takut itu penting gak penting.

Tergantung konteks.

Takut yang penting pastinya takut sama Allah SWT.

Kenapa penting? Karena dengan takut sama Allah kita bakal jauhin larangannya dan mematuhi perintahNya.

You know kan perintah Allah SWT itu pasti yang baik-baik?

Perintah Tuhan mana ada sih yang jelek?

Dan agama mana sih yang mengajarkan keburukan?

Kalo perintahnya jelek pasti bukan perintah Tuhan.

Perintah manusia itu mah. Sesat. Ajaran sesat wkwk.

Well... Tuhan itu menciptakan rasa takut supaya kita sadar kita itu lemah dan butuh Tuhan Yang Maha Kuat untuk protect us from kuntilanak and invisible things lah ya kek ghost or genie.

Dan yaa rasa takut itu normal kok.

Bahkan orang yang beranipun bukan berarti gak punya rasa takut di dalam dirinya. 

Orang pemberani itu adalah orang yang sebenernya takut tapi tetap nekad untuk do it ! 

Intinya setiap manusia itu pasti punya rasa takut. Yng membedakan adalah dia mau FACE IT OR RUN? HADAPI ATAU LARI?

Hahahaha

kalo gua sih ya kalo misalnya ada anjing gila ngejer gua ya gua sih bakal lari wkwk

gak semua hal harus kita hadapi wkwk ada kalanya kita harus lariiiiiiii..... wkwk

Asal jangan lari dari tanggung jawab atau kenyataan ampe commit suicide lah ya.

Ngomong-ngomong masalah ketakutan, well ketakutan terbesar gua adalah kalo gua gak bisa jadi orang baik. Kalo gua sampai jatuh cinta sama makhuk sampai gua lupa sama Tuhan.

Bagi gua kalo gua kehilangan seseorang, at least gua masih punya Tuhan, kalo gua kehilangan Tuhan, it means i lose everything. Makanya gua males pake banget kalo udah fall for someone. Bukan berarti takut jatuh cinta, tapi takut cintanya itu malah menjauhkan dari Tuhan. Itu sih.

 Get over this!

Intinya ketakutan itu terkadang penting. Ketakutan itu bukan hal yang aneh dan gak berguna. 

Takut itu perlu misalnya rasa takut melakukan hal-hal buruk seperti maling, membunuh, mabuk-mabukan etc lah ya.

Takut yang gak perlu adalah takut untuk melakukan kebaikan.

One day, i sat in masjid and listened to a good preach which said that " dont ever get tired to do kindness because your exhaustion will go away, but your kindness will last forever."

so yeah semangat selalu untuk menebar kebaikan karena lelah itu akan hilang dan kebaikan itu akan kekal. 

Oh ya kalau ketakutan akan masa depan penting gak?

Well kalo menurut gua gak penting sih mengkhawatirkan masa depan.

Yang penting ikhtiar aja dulu + doa.

Sisanya biarkan Tuhan yang bertindak dan menentukan mana yang baik buat kita ke depan.

Gua pribadi bukan tipe yang mengkhawatirkan masa depan wkwk.

Gua santai. Gua lebih mikirin rencana ke depan bukan mikirin rasa takutnya.

Bodo amat orang lain mau banyak duit atau seneng-seneng.

Kalo gua yang penting fokus ngajar and get close to my students. And that's enough to make me happy.

 Gua suka nyimpen video atau foto momen-momen bahagia gua ngajar dan yaa ketemu orang baru.

Dan foto-foto itu gua pajang dan liat supaya gua inget momen bahagia dan supaya gua bisa senyum kalo lagi sedih.

Sesederhana itu sih bahagia bagi gua. 

Ngajar. Iya ngajar. Wkwk

Sambil main.

Bye! if you wanna share your point of view just give your comment below ya! feel free to correct me if i am wrong. Thank you for reading!

Rumit

Juni telah melambaikan tangannya

Ia pergi

Dan kini aku bersama Agustus

Masih merindukan Juni

Aku hidup dimasa lalu

Aku hidup di rumah yang rapuh

Aku benci diriku

Lalu apa?

Tidak ada yang bisa aku lakukan

Aku ingin berusaha keluar

Dari jerat hitam

Dari jerat cinta

Dari jerat duka

Andai kutahu caranya 

Aku ingin mencoba

Aku sudah mencoba

Mungkin saja aku kurang berusaha

Apakah aku bisa?

Menjadi manusia baik?

Seperti apa yang ia katakan?

Seperti yang ia duga.

Aku ingin menjadi baik.

Hanya itu.

What Is The Best Way to Learn English?

"What works for others doesn't always mean that it will work for you. Every one has unique and different way to achieve their goal. Find your own way!"

-Putri Ranadhanty-

If you wanna go somewhere, usually you have many alternatives to get there. some people probably prefer taking a long way to get to a destination and the rest may prefer taking a short cut to get to the destination.
It's all on someone's hand. They have a right to choose their own way they enjoy the most and what they think the best one for them. Sometimes, what good for others doesn't always mean that it is gonna be good for us. Therefore, we should think first when we wanna follow someone like "is it good for me? does it benefit me? will i like and enjoy it later?".

A question popping up in your mind is maybe like “What’s the relevant with learning English?”

Well, long story short, WE HAVE DIFFERENT WAY TO LEARN ENGLISH.

That's why we often find it hard to follow English lesson in the class.

One likely problem is ;

1. Each student has different learning styles e.g visual, kinesthetic, auditory. However, teachers' way of teaching doesn't even take students' learning styles into consideration and it tends to benefit students with one of those learning styles. For instance, the teacher only explains and students have to listen for hours the explanation and in the end the students have to do a task on a piece of paper like essay or multiple choice. This way of teaching usually only benefits students with visual learning style and it won't work for the rest of students. The other students will find it boring to learn in that way.

How to work on this?

My answer is " DON'T ALWAYS COUNT ON TEACHER! THERE'S NO A PERFECT TEACHER IN THIS WORLD WHO CAN PLEASE ALL STUDENTS AND MAKE ALL STUDENTS UNDERSTAND FAST AND EASILY! SO, LEARN FROM EVERYTHING AND EVERYONE! YOU CAN LEARN FROM YOU TUBE, GOOGLE, PROBABLY YOUR FRIEND YOU SEE AS THE SMARTEST ONE, OR EVEN YOU CAN LEARN FROM YOUR SENIORS IN YOUR SCHOOL! THERE'S NO EXCUSE GIVE UP LEARNING! THE KEY OF SUCCESS IS IN YOUR HAND, NOT TEACHER'S!"